TCK – Third Culture Kids

29/08/2011 § Leave a comment

You may be able to immagine my enthusiasm when an invite to a meet and greet for this group filtered through to my social networking profile.

So I went along met some people I knew an didnt know it was an excited buzz around the place. Since an article has bee writen my one of the attendies about what can be called “Third Culture Kids”.

It can be read here:

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Should racist words be rehabilitated?

12/02/2011 § Leave a comment

As New York bans the use of the word nigger, the BBC’s Kari Browne finds that when it comes to the small word with a long legacy, there are even divides within her own family.Nigger, or “nigga” as most young people pronounce and spell it these days, has been banned by the largest city in America.

In a historic move, the New York City Council has publicly called on all residents, young and old, rich or poor, black, white, Asian and Latino to voluntarily stop using the word.

The ban is a symbolic one, a plea for the public to stand in solidarity to re-stigmatise the word.

For years the “n-word” has carried a stigma which is so strong that most American journalists and writers have chosen not only to refrain from saying it, but also to refrain from writing it.

Taboo word

I actually am a reformed n-word user.

As a product of a mixed-marriage – my mother is African American and my father white – I grew up in an extremely racially diverse community near San Francisco.

I used the n-word among friends, at school, singing along to songs. I used it carelessly without thinking much about it. It wasn’t uncommon to hear my Filipino friends say to my Korean friends “what’s up nigga”.

Even among white kids, it was used ironically as a term of respect to one another… a way to fit in or identify with friends of other races.

Thinking of it now, our ancestors (both black and white) would be rolling in their graves as they listen to black kids greet their white friends with “what’s up my nigga”, or whites doing the same to their black friends.

Indeed it’s become a part of our language, and sadly I don’t remember feeling ashamed of using the word. Actually, that’s not entirely true. I would never have said it around my parents or family. And perhaps that’s the key.

I suppose the hope is to shame people out of using the word in a very public effort.


But are young people even listening?

Words are multidimensional. And they mean different things to different people. But how can a word used to categorically dehumanise an entire race of people ever be flipped around to be used as a term of endearment?

Some African-Americans argue that by reclaiming the word, by owning it for themselves, the word can take on whatever meaning they ascribe to it.

In other words, they argue it is possible to reinvent the n-word and change its connotation.

Words can be painful and incredibly emotional. The n-word was born in the context of American slavery.

The first written documentation of it in print form was in 1786. It was used by white slave masters to label their black slaves.

Centuries later, it has enjoyed a rebirth among mostly young folks who have never known the context in which it was once spoken. And this is the problem.

We do not hear our elders saying: “Hello my n…, how are you today?”

My grandfather, raised in part by his grandmother – a freed slave – doesn’t greet his friends with the word.

In fact I have never heard him, or anyone else in my family use it. So why did I?

Generational perhaps? And that is exactly what young people say today.

Different perceptions

My great-grandmother once asked me if I knew what the term “cracker” meant. Cracker is often used in a derogatory context to describe white people.

It too has had a rebirth among some whites who jokingly refer to themselves as “white trash” or “crackers”.


For all I knew, the term cracker referred to the white colour of saltine crackers we eat. So I always thought we called white people crackers because they were the colour of crackers. End of story.

Apparently not so. My great-grandmother told me that the term “cracker” was used by slaves to refer to their white slave owners as the man who “cracks the whip”.

Crackers were the masters who beat their slaves.

Words carry weight.

Perhaps the gesture by the city council is to encourage people to be more considerate and sensitive to the legacy of the word.

So the debate continues. Though New Yorkers will not face fines or penalties for using the word, those on the New York City Council hope that people will consider carefully the context and connotation of the n-word and make an empowered decision to stop using it.

Story from BBC NEWS:

Published: 2007/03/01 15:45:53 GMT

© BBC 2011


BBC WHYS: Do ancestors hold us back?

31/01/2011 § 1 Comment

Should we continue to worship the memory of our forefathers or is it an expensive waste of time? Devotion to ancestors is widespread across the African continent where many people consult the shrines of spiritual mediums as a way of seeking advice from those that have died.

Religious leaders in the continent are alarmed by the rise in ancestral worship and claim it has no place in today’s society.


How much do ancestors influence your life? Does their memory inspire or scare you? Do you have ancestral duties yourself? Are your ancestors holding you back? Or giving you spiritual guidance?

Read comments on this and listen to World Have Your Say here.

Ugandan spiritual medium sitting by a sacred tree

The beginning of the program:

Presenter: “Abdul, [22yrs old male in the studio] do you identify youself as Somalian or British?”
“To what extent are you¬†Somalian?”
-Ummm, as a person of Somalia, but I grew up in United Kingdom.
-Where were you born?
-Saudi Arabia.
-In Saudi Arabia… – and have you been to Somalia?
-Um yeh, I’ve been¬†twice.
-You’ve been twice… When you go and come back, do you feel a sense of connectedness in a way you havent felt it before or does it just feel like you’ve gone to visit a certain place, that you have a heritage with but are¬†coming¬†back home, to the United Kingdom.
-Ummm. Nah I feel like when i go back i feel like I’ve had a connection because you meet a lot of your family, you see your culture and your heritage first hand and you see what, you know, what good life people are living there, because the media makes it seem that – you know – that Somalia is a terrible place.
-Is there a good life in Somalia? presenter asks very doubtfully.
-Yeh, there is.
-What did you see?
-People living healthy. Ah, you know, even people that dont have that much to eat – the community supports them – where I went. So it shows that its not just that, you know, third world county where its just refugee camps everywhere. People are living quite well. And you get to meet a LOT of your family with is very special.
-Strong sense of community.
-“Sumsa! [18 year old girl in the studio] I can see you smiling!” – the interviewer says chuckling. “Do you feel well percieved by other British young people? – Your peers, here in the United Kingdom… as a, as a young Somali?’
-Like do I feel connected, do you mean?
-Yes do you feel connected?
– Yes!
-Like do you feel accepted?
-You do feel accepted?
-Yes, I do.
Listen to hear the rest.

…”I get ¬†a sense right now as i speak to the young Somalis right now… ¬†there appears to be a gap between the two generations, a different way of thinking and perception I hear the young people, and I could be wrong, saying that well that was then, this is now, that was them, this is us. Would you say you’re getting a similar sence ther in Manisota?”….

This is also interesting because you get to witness a conversation between two radio stations and two studios across the Pacific, the vast space between them have never been so obvious to me. It also becomes obvious how much rests on the attractiveness of the new homeland culture to the individual immigrant.

The young people in the UK studio; 22 born in Saudi Arabia, 21 born in Italy, 23 born in Somalia moved to Holland at the age of 2, 18 born in UK. How can these people own their identity so well Рspeak with ethnic accents!?

Cultural jet lag

15/10/2010 § Leave a comment

Cultural shizophrenia / Cultural jet lag

The expression cultural jet lag (or cultural jetlag or CJL) was first coined by Marc Perraud during his research into cross-cultural psychology.[1] He describes the expression as thephenomenon of partial socialization in adults born from bi-cultural/national unions and whose childhood was characterized by nomadic displacement during key personality developmental stages. Jet symbolically designates international travel as the cause, cultural lag the resulting disconnect observed in these patients.

During some of the presentations of his research, Marc Perraud also coined the term cultural schizophrenia to explain the elements of confusion in children constantly exposed to changing cultural and moral environments.This expression is to be seen only as an attempt at vulgarization using popular imagery and does not refer to the actual accepted psychological definition, diagnosis or symptoms of clinical schizophrenia.
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MigrantYouthNewZealand unites

06/10/2010 § Leave a comment

My joy knew no bounds when I got news of this through Youthline, and just in time to register too! I think these are very exciting and important first steps not just for the organisation but even for all of NZ society. (Maybe there are other events with with similar aims but i’ve been on the look-out and I think it must mean something that i’ve seen nothing to compare this to.)
Finally something like this is happening in New Zealand!

MYNZ is a daughter organisation or a ‘youth unit’ of Shakti, most excitingly it is by youth for youth.¬†(Shakti works¬†to protect immigrant women’s rights, operating from West Auckland from 1995.)

Migration brings with it issues related to settlement, acclimatization to new cultures, cross-cultural barriers, etc. For the youth from immigrant communities, the process of integration while having to live in a traditional environment at home and adapting to western-value based environment outside of home, is a lot harder.
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The Youth Conference, MYNZ (Migrant Youth New Zealand), was held on May 27, 2010 with the primary goal of empowering young people of Asian, African and Middle descent to talk openly about the challenges of living in New Zealand. (With input from four other youth organizations: BODY SAFE, YOUTHLINE, YOUTHLAW and MIXIT.)

It was a day-long event that targeted 15-21 year olds and aimed to provide a space them to identify and address issues specific to their experience, build understanding about cross-cultural aspects and help shape their sense of identity in New Zealand.¬†Topics included: cultural ‚Äėjuggling‚Äô, racism and bullying, family, love and safety, gender issues as well as information sharing by groups who provide support services for immigrant youth.

Although the conference was a while ago now, work continues and a¬†comprehensive report was published in June 2010 (surely¬†available¬†on inquiry) which continues to plot¬†MYNZ’s future.

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‚ÄúWho are you if you don‚Äôt know¬†your¬†past?‚ÄĚ

05/05/2010 § Leave a comment

It is the title that has qualified this article to appear here. In itself it puts forward a potent question…

You can view the article by clicking here.

It is about one woman’s experience of finding out that she is adopted, she shares the ways it, coupled with loss and¬†grief,¬†has effected her life.

Here is a copy of the article with points of interest highlighted by me.

This article appeared a woman’s magazine: Notebook, October 2009 issue.

“The Black Man” /¬†Racism¬†and¬†Reality

18/04/2010 § Leave a comment

These exerts are again, from “The Tyra Show”. Its a shame the previews are so short, if anyone is able to locate full episodes on these themes, please hook us up.

The Black Man and Sagging
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Myths of Racial Perception
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